||[Feb. 14th, 2005|04:35 pm]
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In booking tickets the issue of changing my surname has come up. I am really unsure about what to do and I have been thinking about it for nearly 9 months. As far as I have thought at this stage the pros and cons (in my case)are as follows:
- I never really got attached to my surname anyway
- Our children will have his surname (or else it will die out in Australia)
- I will have been working under my maiden name for 3 years nearly when we get married
- My degrees are under my maiden name
- I don't like the associtations with propterty changing hands
What does anyone else think?
I feel really weird about the idea of changing my name. It's MY NAME, and I also feel insulted that only women are asked to change their names. I feel it underlines an inequality in the relationship, if you change your name and he doesn't. And yes, having all your degrees and professional stuff in your name is difficult when you change it.
Yeah. Luckily I am not too far into my career that it would be that hard to change my name (I don't have anything published yet for example). The real drawing card for changing my name is so that the whole family would have the same name. Or I could always go with Salzer-Frost...
I've decided to change my name, because I'm actually really happy about starting this new family, what with all my issues with my other one. Also, because his name is a hyphenation of his parents' names, it's a new surname for him too, so it really will belong to our new family unit.
But we've decided to go with Basili-Klopfer for the children (his name is Klopfer-Webber), because otherwise Basili will die out, since my brother won't be having children, and he thinks the Klopfer part is more important to keep, since Webber is so common, and Klopfer isn't (unless we move to Austria). Oh, and we're bitches, and it's fun making our future children's lives difficult... ;)
The more I think about it the more I think I will go with Salzer-Frost. I bounced my ideas off juliadactyl
over msn and I think that is what will work for me. Although I have 6 months, 20 days to change my mind ;)