|Ceremony and date
||[Feb. 13th, 2005|07:18 pm]
I did say I was going to explain these at some point.
Nick and I got together on December 17th, 2002, so the 17th is a good date for us. And the 17th just seems to be falling into place for everything else. We're meeting up with the minister (or whatever they're called in the Anglican Church) who might be marrying us on February 17th to discuss it, the 17th ended up being a Sunday in April, perfect for our Engagement Party, and so when we saw that there was a Sunday the 17th in September next year, we thought that was perfect! (we want a Sunday because they're cheaper and easier to book than Saturdays for weddings, and so the date seemed like it was meant to be.)
As for the church wedding: Nick's dad, although not a prcaticing Christian, sang in the choir of St Mark's Anglican Church, Darling Point, for something like 25 years, and he also did a lot of work for that choir. When he died the Church put a plaque up for him in the choir area at the front. As such, apart from the fact that's it's a lovely church, Nick's always liked the idea of getting married there, which I agree is especially nice since his dad died four years ago. However, neither of us being any sort of Christian, Anglican or otherwise, meant that we have a problem with Bible quotes, the Lord's prayer, hymns etc at our wedding. On the other hand, we both believe in God, and I think Jesus was way cool, so we have no problem with those two names cropping up, it's more the specifically Biblical stuff that we want to avoid.
I found a minister in Chicago's version of the Anglican wedding ceremony, and he was very cool about making the readings either romantic or religious, at the couple's discretion, and music not having to be hymns, leaving the Lord's prayer out etc etc. If we can manage to get it like that, we'd be happy to have it at the Church, and the minister can say what he likes in the blessings and such.
The previous minister for St. Mark's (he's retired and moved to the South Coast), said (to Nick's mum) that he would love to marry us, and would be happy to compromise with us, but he is still bound to certain Anglican things, because of his position as an Anglican minister, which is fair enough. So, on the 17th of this month, we'll be having dinner with him at Nick's mum's place, and discussing things, and we'll see if we can come to an arrangement that suits all of us. Otherwise, we have to start looking for secular locations again, which are a bitch. With all the hours of research I've done I've found that there's a certain assumption that the ceremony will be religious, even if you aren't *really* religious, and so there's very few places you can get married other than in churches. That's frustrating because I find the idea of getting married in a completely religious when I just don't have those beliefs disgusting and hypocritical, and it wouldn't be fair to me, or the religion and those who genuinely practice it.
So that's that. Hopefully things will go well this Thursday, because then it's sorted, and it's a beautiful church.
And if the Taronga Centre is as nice as we hope, and the church thing works out, we can make a booking for both next week!!